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Mapping Relationships With Face Reading

We all relate from our own space of being and we have an innate tendency to think everyone thinks as we do. And if they don't they should!

But in truth, it may be totally alien to where the next person is coming from. You don't have to speak another language or come from a different culture to not understand each other. The more different you are in your approach, the harder it is to comprehend the other person.

Face Reading helps define the territory, give you maps for traversing relationships. It lets you know upfront how a person will tend to move through life. It also provides a tool for understanding yourself in relation to everyone you meet:  where your differences are going to be, how drastic the differences, and how you can shift your own approach to be more in sync with the person in front of you when you want to build rapport.

Basically, the more different you look than another person in terms of facial structure, the more likely the two of you will have different approaches and different needs. In face reading, traits on a face come in pairs . . . opposites. . . and  the more traits you have in common, the more easily you will understand the other person and the more different, the harder to understand the other person.

It doesn't mean you can't relate at all, it simply gives you a good idea of how bumpy or smooth that relationship will be and in what ways. It can also be the basis of fascination with the differentness or repulsion with the alienness. Often relationships begin from fascination with the attraction of opposites. But unless a compromise can be struck when the newsness has worn off, it can turn less than divine very quickly.

How do you take stock of your differentness? The traits on this website can provide some idea of behavioral tendencies shown by opposite pairs. It gives you a sense of how different the approaches can be and makes it clear why there would be glitches in communication between opposites. But if there are a lot of similarities, it would be easier.

For example, two people with high eyebrows, fine skin and hair, close set-eyes, straight noses, small chins, and narrow faces will have much in common in how they approach matters in certain areas. They could also be very different in other areas, say one has a high rounded, broad forehead and the other has a lower, flat, narrow forehead. That's going to have a huge impact on their mental approaches and what they consider important. One is mired in physical reality, focused, practical, and has a narrow range of interests. The other is extremely curious, has broad interests, and addicted to information. Neither is particularly tolerant and both are hyper-sensitive to criticism. Do the math.

Maybe one has prominent cheekbones and the other has almost sunken cheekbones. So one will want to experience life out there first hand, the other will prefer to hang out in the calm security of home and will tend to be a wet blanket on the other's need for excitement.  If one has high ears which shows pragmatism (everything is relative),  and the has other low ears (everything is measured against an internal ideal), they are going to have trouble agreeing on what constitutes acceptable. High ears wants progress even if it means you give up some measure of perfection. They can move on and not worry over it. Low ears won't compromise on their idea of how things should be, and if they are forced to accept less, they will obsess over it and consider it a failure.

Without understanding these small differences and what they mean, they can grow to be a constant irritant, accruing emotional dissatisfactions that grow into a massive block to communication somewhere down the road. But, if two people know from the beginning where the issues are going to be, they can work out how to handle the problems, finding ways to compromise in the sensitive areas, allowing each other their dignity. When two people in a relationship start developing contempt for the each other, the relationship is doomed.

Acceptance. Tolerance. Respect. Allowing each other to be who he/she is. These are key attitudes in working through the differences and maintaining a relationship. When you know who the other person is, you can adjust your expectations accordingly. Face reading is a great tool to help you map that territory.